Kate Gosselin and Jon Gosselin's days as lovably cranky TLC sweethearts with a telegenic brood of eight feel like ancient history -- and, over three years since their marriage bitterly imploded, Kate, 38, claims she harbors no ill will towards her ex-husband, 36. Jon, for one, recently came out of the woodwork to reveal his new, humble life working as a waiter at a restaurant and living in a rustic cabin in rural Pennsylvania -- and briefly lashing out at a photographer by brandishing a handgun.
Welcoming Kate on her talk show, Bethenny Frankel asked her pointblank of Jon, "Has he snapped? Do you still love him?"
"Somebody once told me that if you feel sadness and empathy and pity for someone the root of that is love," Kate replied. "I feel like the person that I married nearly overnight was not that person anymore," she said, looking back on their days in the spotlight.
The former "Jon and Kate Plus 8" star told Frankel -- no stranger to bitter marital disputes and custody battles -- about the strict arrangement she and Jon have worked out. "Without going into too much detail we are making the best of it. I definitely want [our children] to know that I did not want to hinder or stand in the way of that relationship with him," she explained.
"So I do everything I can to foster that because it is important and you have to have the ability to remove judgment and ugliness from that. The best thing for my kids is that I give them the opportunity and the ability to continue that relationship. When they are older if they don't want to do it anymore or whatever decisions they make that is their business. For now, my job is to foster that bond."
Frankel also grilled the "Dancing with the Stars" alumna on her changed appearance -- and speculation about plastic surgery. "I did have a tummy tuck," she said simply.
Where did Kate's money from reality TV fame go? " The majority of what we made, I, personally took and put in a college fund for them because they will go to college. So I use coupons, we don't wear the top brands," she said. "Those things to me really aren't overly important but college, school and their house, where they live is important."
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