Don't shoot the messenger!

On Friday's Ellen DeGeneres Show, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star Camille Grammer opens up about how she first learned of her husband Kelsey's infidelities.

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"A mutual friend called me and said, 'I don't like what he's doing to you and I don't like the timing because you're still in the middle of shooting a reality show.' And then I called him that night and texted him. No answer from him," Camille, 42, recalls. "I waited for three hours and then he called me and said, 'I don't want to be married anymore.'"

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According to Camille -- who remains undecided about whether she'll return for a second season -- she only agreed to join the Bravo cast at the insistence of her husband, 55.

"I didn't want to do the show. I wasn't ready to expose my life that way," she explains. "I was surprised that he wanted me to do to it too. I was like, 'Are you crazy? Why are you making me do this?' But he thought it would be good for me to do something that was separate from us being a couple."

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These days, Camille says things are so tense with her soon-to-be ex-husband (who's currently engaged to Australian flight attendant Kayte Walsh) that they barely even communicate.

"We don't speak at all," she tells DeGeneres. "Everything I find out is through the press with him. Or he writes me an email or text."

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"I think it's really important for us to speak if we're going to raise children together," she explains of coparenting Mason, 9, and Jude, 6. "So right now, my focus now is that we hopefully become friends and we move on from this and we can become good parents to our two young children."

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